“Franz Kafka, the story goes, encountered a little girl in the park where he went walking daily. She was crying. She had lost her doll and was desolate.
Kafka offered to help her look for the doll and arranged to meet her the next day at the same spot.
Unable to find the doll he composed a letter from the doll and read it to her when they met.
‘Please do not mourn me, I have gone on a trip to see the world. I will write you of my adventures.’ This was the beginning of many letters. When he and the little girl met he read her from these carefully composed letters the imagined adventures of the beloved doll. The little girl was comforted.
When the meetings came to an end Kafka presented her with a doll. She obviously looked different from the original doll. An attached letter explained ‘My travels have changed me.’
Many years later, the now grown girl found a letter stuffed into an unnoticed crevice in the cherished replacement doll.
In summary it said
“Every thing that you love, you will eventually lose, but in the end, love will return in a different form.”
It is the love that we carry in our hearts that truly matters, not so much the outlet of it. The love that nourishes our hearts and spirits, through which we grow and evolve into the best version of ourselves.
Have an amazing week ahead and spread the love 🙂
I am a deep believer that the best present that you can give to the people who you love is your time. Time to listen, time to bond, time to share. Creating something for them goes to a different level- for me it is like taking a piece of your heart, infusing it with your love and ispiration and giving it a life of its own. A part of you that always stays with them. That is why today I’m feeling satisfied from deep within as one of my best friends will soon receive a piece of my heart 🙂
Yesterday was the International Children day which always reminds of my happy childhood times and also of the importance being opened and playful. It is sometimes difficult to imagine that we can learn a lot from the children around us and even from the children within us, but just think about it- being opened, fearless, approaching things without predjudice and judgement are important qualities which we can see in practice in the many of the young ones around us that are unspoiled by the desire to fit in and be accepted as well as the fear of failing. And just how much lighter and more inspired could we be if we were a bit more like that? So look around- you teachers are all around you 🙂
More thoughts on this as well as abeautiful video can be found here
“Bharadvaja was a devout scholar who studied the Vedas (ancient Hindu philosophical and spiritual texts). He spent his entire lifetime learning and pondering the Vedas. Then he died.
Bharadvaja was reborn and he continued his reading, memorizing and writing of the Vedas. His whole life, yet again, was dedicated to studying these ancient texts.
Bharadvaja died and was reborn a third time. He once again pursued his learning of the Vedas with deep intensity. He withdrew from his community to study day and night and became known as a secluded sage devoted to learning. During this time, his desire to stop the cycle of birth, death and rebirth began to grow.
Near the end of Bharadvaja’s third life, Shiva paid him a visit. At first, Bharadvaja was excited as he thought his zealous studies had finally paid off and Shiva would release him from the cycle of death and rebirth.
The excitement waned as Shiva asked what exactly Bharadvaja thought he was doing with his lifetimes. Bharadvaja replied that every lifetime had been completely devoted to getting closer to the teachings. Shiva slowly shook his head, reached out the window and scooped up a pile of dirt which he placed in front of his student, saying, “This handful of dirt represents what you learned in one lifetime.”
Shiva swept up another handful of dirt and placed it with the first. “This,” Shiva said, “is what you learned during your second lifetime.”
Shiva reached his arm out the window a third time and placed a pile of dirt in front of Bharadvaja. He said, “this third mound of dirt illustrates the knowledge you accumulated during this lifetime.” Shiva then motioned to the Himalayas beyond the window, “Do you see those mountains? That represents the information contained in the Vedas, Bharadvaja. It would take thousands of lifetimes to master all that is contained within them. You certainly have gained more knowledge than anyone else, but you have chosen to live alone, to share your knowledge with no one and have yet to experience and give life to the true meaning of the Vedas. It is through sharing and teaching that you’ll awaken to life and overcome death.” Shiva then left his pupil and Bharadvaja died.
During his fourth lifetime, Bharadvaja not only studied the Vedas, but he became a compassionate educator. He imparted the wisdom and many students revered him as a beloved teacher. Upon his deathbed, people came from all over to honor their teacher. Shiva also came to tell him that he’d learned the lesson and that if Bharadvaja chose, he too could be freed from the death-rebirth cycle. Bharadvaja thanked Shiva but recognized that it was through sharing and teaching that he felt most alive and he chose to be reborn again and became one of the greatest sages ever known.”
From an early age we are thought that knowledge is power that gives us advantage over others. Sharing the knowledge is therefore not in our interest. The same applies to the office- we are all want to be seen in expert in our fields and oversharing could work against us. The story of Bharadwaja is an important reminder for all of us to first find what brings us joy and second and more importantly – to share the joy with the others, for theirs and our own good. Because the joy that is shared, gets multiplied 🙂
Wouldn’t life be much lighter if we would adopt the approach of Nelson Mandela? 🙂
We often feel the need to share the opinions that we’ve formed based on our knowledge and experience. But just sharing them without consideration for the other person and their situation doesn’t always work. We’ve experienced it many times – there are always the ones who not neceserily know the best, but are the loudest to share. Even though you’ve experienced something first hand and they just read about it somewhere- they are just so convinced that there is no point to have a discussion. In these situations it is difficult to connect , as the other side seems to be only interested in hearing their voice and does not seem to care about others’ views. But then, how often do you genuinely care about what they have to say? Almost never, right?
Sometimes in our eagerness to share we can be the “loud” ones. And in these times listening might work better than speaking. Because we all want to connect. Connecting with care and consideration is the key to getting it right 🙂
Staying true to ourselves ( specially when one is perceived to be “different” for whatever reason) is one of the biggest challenges that we face in our lives. But it pays off as eventually we will be on our own journey, learning our own lessons and making our own contribution to this world 🙂 And here are the words of the favourite songs from “La La land” to give you the inspiration to do that:
“She told me
“A bit of madness is key
To give us new colors to see
Who knows where it will lead us?
And that’s why they need us”
So bring on the rebels
The ripples from pebbles
The painters, and poets, and plays
And here’s to the fools who dream
Crazy as they may seem
Here’s to the hearts that break
Here’s to the mess we make
I trace it all back to then
Her, and the snow, and the Seine
Smiling through it
She said she’d do it again”